It’s the little things in life.
A simple cliché we’ve all heard from parents and grandparents, over and over again. It’s so familiar. Teenagers still roll their eyes after hearing it on the back of, “no, we can’t go shopping to get that brand new tech gadget, just be happy playing in the backyard.”
Another cliché, as common and comfy as an old jumper, sums it up. They were, in fact, ‘right on the money’.
The thing is, it’s no small thing to have a backyard, depending on which country, city or town you were born in. It’s no small thing to have a house, or loving parents or even the ability to whinge about not having the new iPad.
Whatever we’re born in to, we tend to become used to and blinded by. For many children a backyard is boring compared to a new computer game. You can’t brag about a backyard to your friends, everyone has one, right? But, imagine what a safe, grassy, insect filled backyard would be like for a child in a war-torn country, living in a bullet-ridden, cement bomb shelter?
We allow children to become pre-programmed by our own lack of awareness. We all come into the world knowing there is magic in everything. Lo and behold, 5 years down the track, we think magic is only in what Toby from next door has. Adults complain about the ungrateful attitudes of children – but children didn’t teach themselves to be ungrateful…did they?
Your intellect (what you’ve been taught by your society) and chosen perception automatically advises you if an experience or an object is small or big in the eyes of the world, usually before intelligence kicks in. There’s a vast difference between intellect and intelligence. Intellect is what our minds are clogged with during years spent in school – it’s information repetitively drummed into our heads, until we can repeat it without thought.
And it is obviously useful.
Intellectually advanced people can astound us with their knowledge, confound us with their facts and figures, confuse us with their terminology. But to have intelligence, the intellect must blend with emotion and intuition. The creative right and logical left sides of the brain must both operate at the same time.
Intelligence is fostered by risk taking, creativity and asking questions instead of robotically accepting information via learning institutions, newspapers, televisions, parents or bosses. It’s not disrespectful to ask questions and to think for yourself, in fact, it shows a lack of intelligence not to.
Back to, ‘it’s the little things in life’, cliché. It’s the intellect, without intelligence, that encourages the ego to lash out and disregard perceived little things in favour of big things. For example, you’re going on a holiday. Fantastic. It’s in 2 weeks. In the meantime, everything else seems small, in comparison to the big holiday. So… you automatically hate work every morning, sunny skies just make you wish the time would hurry up, happy people are irritating and everything gets chaotic simply because all you want to do is go on a holiday.
You’ve just wasted two weeks worth of opportunities for happiness in the little things, waiting around for your big thing.
Have a look at these two lists.
Buying a house
Going on a holiday
Falling in love
Getting a degree
Walking in nature
Smelling delicious food when you’re really hungry
Did you automatically place the first list in the big events category and the second list in the small events category?
If so, why? Really think about it. Laughing, in the moment, is just as fun as going on a holiday. Waking up, each day, is just as exciting as buying a house, smelling delicious food when you’re hungry gives you the same feeling of anticipation as falling in love and walking on the beach can be as much of a journey as getting a degree.
And all of these things can generally be experienced each and every day. When your intellect, and the world’s intellect, ceases to determine your level of excitement, based on an imaginary ‘small to big’ things scale in life, you realise that every moment of your life can be, and is, full of love and excitement.
When you realise that ‘it’s the little things that count’, you begin to understand there are no little things. You stop waiting around or unnecessarily striving for the non-existent big things. All things are just…things. They just are. And you can place whatever importance on whatever you like, whenever you like.
So why not choose to place importance on feeling excitement and love every day, rather than waiting for self-perceived big moments?
Then you’ll remember that everything is perfect and magical as it is, and life is much BIGGER than any material thing, or ambition-type thing, or routine-type thing you’ve become a slave to.
All you have to do is be aware enough, each and every moment, to notice.